Acknowledgements

It goes without saying that my main thanks are to Victoria and my children, and after that to our mums, Mary and Maria-Jesus; My twin sister, Sarah (Queen of the World); Mike; Holly; Lucy and her family, all of whom have shown us such love and provided so much tea.

I would like especially to thank Caroline Grayson for being an oasis of reason when I’d all but lost mine, and for creating such a beautiful and moving vow renewal for us; Sharon Fillingham for more wisdom than any individual has a right to; Cathy Galvin for her enduring friendship but more especially for reading first draughts and encouraging me to keep going; Helen Shreeve for her invaluable help in getting this book ready for publication, to say nothing of her kindness and understanding; All the myriad Angels on the transgender support website, UK Angels, who shared so honestly, listened so patiently and sent me so much virtual chocolate to keep me going. Sue and Becca; Amy; Mercia and Mary; Paula and Sophie; Mel; Imelda and Richard; Carolyn and Marek; Becky; LiD.; Pandora and Robert; Steve; Garry and Catherine; Steve and Heidi and everyone at TDCom.

I would like to thank Helen Shreeve and Lisa Jenkinson for arranging for us to be on Saturday Live on Radio 4; Richard Coles and Sian Williams for enabling us to tell our story and asking all the right questions; AUK publishers for offering to publish this book and sorting out all the technical stuff.

Finally I would like to thank everyone who felt challenged by us but kept trying and made their own transitional journey of understanding.